When it comes to getting to that point of enjoying what you have worked so hard to create and making what you’ve been dreaming about into reality, there are different things to consider. But before we can achieve success, you need to focus on strengthening your mindset, reclaiming your productivity and motivation; and focussing on your wellness and vitality.
We are on the journey of a lifetime. There is a real sense of achievement, determination and grit that goes into creating the lifestyle and career that you are proud of.
It is well known that having the right foundations in business is so important, right? BUT what if you are nailing the business side. You have been there for a while and are reasonably successful, you know loads about your position and you love what you do. what you do is high responsibility and requires your attention and focus therefore you are switched on ALL the time. However, there is something that is putting the breaks on… you have the carer but behind the scenes life is a different story…
Many coaches of high performers say that mindset is one of the keys to success in in creating your dream lifestyle. After all that’s what you have been working so hard to create, right? Our mindset is our point of view, of coping mechanism and the way we view and interact in our world. So what are your thoughts saying to you?
Mindset is one of the most powerful tools that you possess and I truly believe that when we harness the unlimited power of our minds then our potential is beyond our belief, even if you feel successful there is always more we are capable of.
Now when it comes to increasing your success and really performing at your best, there are a number of things you need to really understand and refine … let’s dive a little deeper.
Ownership – Now what do you mean OWNERSHIP Katie? Great question! The way we view the world, our business, our lives is either with a mindset of blame or OWNERSHIP. Now I hear a few feathers ruffle, but if you are constantly searching outside yourself for the solutions (blaming others or things) then you will not find the deep solutions you are looking for. Ownership allows you look within and unlock the solutions from what you already have! That’s where the magic happens.
Now sometimes things may appear to be outside our control but we can control our response and the direction we choose to solve the problem. E.g When my kids are going crazy and we are fighting because the house is a mess. Now I can blame them and rant at them OR I can stop and look at what I can learn from this and discover that maybe my boundaries are not clear enough and our routine is not matching the result I want to create. When you look at what is happening in your career and life, look at whether you are taking ownership of your movement and results, or whether THAT is what’s holding you back.
Focus and Clarity – How much time have you taken to actually STOP and spend some serious time in sorting out what it is you are seeking in your career and life and seeing if what you want matches up with what you have? High performers have this part nailed. They are so laser focussed on what they want, what they need to do to get there and then solely work on that to achieve their results.
Yes the nuts and bolts of time, flexibility and what ignites your passion, however, you need to dig a little deeper for the foundations and identify WHO specifically you want to be in 4 years time. GET CLEAR! HOW do YOU want to show up in your biz and your life this balance is really vital to you obtaining that sense of overall success. Uncovering this focus and clarity is the key to turning what you have dreamed about your whole life into a reality. You need to really make this a priority in your because the mindset foundations are AS important as the strategy you implement. When you build your dream home you don’t want it to sink do you. Get curious – Really WANT to know all the juicy details about it.
Health – Sleep, hydration, movement, and good food are vital in sustaining your success and creating and maintaining success you have worked so hard to turn into a reality. Quite often people are so focussed on making their career for themselves their health and wellness is put on the back burner. They work long hours, forget to eat, drink lots of coffee and grab the “easy” solution. However, in the long run this leads to fatigue, exhaustion, they make mistakes that they don’t normally and their as their level of stress increases their level of health declines.
What we need to understand that if you focus on your health then you can increase your productivity, motivation and ENJOY the life you are creating. The affects of not paying attention to this can really damage and hinder all the hard work, dedication and commitment you have spent in building and evolving your career.
Another thing, and one which no thought is usually given, is our experiences of the past and how the emotions that are repressed in the body suck the energy right out of you! If you repress emotions your body feels it, good or bad. Dr Bruce Lipton, cell biologist, discusses how our memories are stored within the cells in our body and at the unconscious level. Now when we stack these up one after the other (even unconsciously) this can be the culprit of anxiety, stress, chronic pain and FATIGUE. Check in on the relationship you have with your unconscious mind – if you are holding on to anger, sadness, fear, guilt or hurt then you can be in constant battle with you unconscious mind to shove those old feelings back inside (what I like to think of as a little black bag and stuffed deep down inside) which cost you energy, productivity! Imagine it like two boxers in the ring fighting every day. Now to me, that sounds exhausting, doesn’t it?
Values and beliefs – Your values and beliefs are those things that drive our behaviour. If we are living and building our business that line up with our deep values and beliefs then you will find discomfort. This can be why people procrastinate, argue with themselves or are totally overwhelmed. The result of that is them feeling as through they are stuck and unable to move in their business or believe that they “can’t do this!” or are “too old!” or are “not tech enough” or just plain “good enough. when you can align your business with your values and beliefs about your business and yourself then you become UNSTUCK and can gain momentum.
Making Mindset a Priority – You spend so much time focussed on what is happening on the surface that you are witnessing and there is little time for you to listen to what story is being told in the background of your thoughts. Maybe there is an old belief that you are telling yourself (or someone has told you before) that you are playing in your mind. Examples may be “You’re meant to work hard”, “People don’t listen to me” or “I’m scared of failing/rejection”. It is important that you spend the time listening to your thoughts and noticing what is coming up for you. Once you make the practice of mindset a priority to can capture those patterns and then use whatever tools suit you to release them. We need to make it a priority to capture the thoughts otherwise they go back and hide in the unconscious until the next time they are triggered.
Your story – What story are you running on autopilot! I have always had to work hard to make ends meet! Nothing ever comes easy! It’s been a hard slog to get here! EEEKKKK! this makes me feel exhausted thinking about it.
Is your story one of greatness, success, love, learning, growth and awesomeness? OR is it the story of hardship, scarcity and disappointment. These stories that we tell ourselves and others are one of the biggest blocks and obstacles that get in the way of us kicking butt consistently. They are the anchor dragging on the ocean floor and then longer you have told them the heavier the anchor is.
When we are running this story, in an as if now and it is still driving our future behaviour, that’s a problem. When we use our story to empower our decisions, choices and direction, then that is gold. Life is life and Sh*t happens. It is what we can take away from those experiences and how we use it to fuel our life vehicle that makes the difference.
Next time you are telling your story just see where the emotion sits and if it is of a positive or negative (draaaaiiiinnning) nature. That will give you the answer. Our stories are where we have come from and we wouldn’t be where we are today without them… however, if they are directing our behaviour, our focus and our future off course then we need to redirect it in the direction WE CHOOSE!
Helpful Hurry Hint – STOP, take a few deep breaths and repeat RELEASE, RELEASE, RELEASE